FOMO (fear of missing out) is kind of a jokey term, but the feelings behind it are human and valid. People want to feel like they belong. Connection is important, and it’s helpful for those of us in recovery to prioritize relationships and bonding. This is why support systems are so important.
Getting Sober and Anticipating FOMO
When people enter recovery, they might worry about having FOMO. I planned to get sober a month in advance; during that month, I wore myself out going to just about every event possible, drinking and doing drugs every moment I could. I worried that life in sobriety would mean missing all the action—and that included FOMO on the substance use itself.
I’m happy to say that hasn’t come to pass. It’s true that there may be a period of time where you need to stay home in order to prioritize your sobriety. However, I’ve found that recovery enables me to participate more in life. I’m much more present—and I remember what happened later.
When I was in active addiction, there was almost always a point where I either got sad, re-lived traumas, browned out, fought with someone, or fell asleep early. When I think about it that way, I was definitely missing out on what is actually fun about being with other people: connecting and creating memories.
This is one way to help combat FOMO: reframe it. Even if you find that going out is too difficult for you, this could open you up to new possibilities. You could pick up a new hobby, learn a new skill, or make new social connections. You might even start a standing sober event.
Fun in Recovery
Before I got sober, recovery felt like being cut off from fun and possibility. I have found the opposite to be true. I don’t miss hangovers, fights, blackouts, or not being in control of my emotions. I am grateful for the ability to have real fun and connection now.
Gratitude lists are very helpful for focusing your attention on what you have versus what you’re missing. You will likely find that much of the good in your life wouldn’t be possible without recovery.
If you are struggling with a substance use or mental health disorder, there is hope. TruHealing Centers offers high-quality treatment for addiction and mental health disorders in facilities across the country. Our staff—many of whom are in recovery themselves—will help you build joy in recovery. Call an admissions specialist at 410-593-0005.
